Do Centenarians Prefer Solitude or Social Life?

As the average life expectancy increases, the question arises: do the most exceptional among us, those who live to be over 100 years old, prefer to live like hermits, isolated from the world? Most would argue that maintaining some level of social interaction is vital for a long and healthy life. However, many centenarians like to live for themselves as well as for others, and some may find solace in a more independent lifestyle, away from the daily hustle and bustle of family and friends.

Adversity and Its Impact

The advent of the COVID-19 pandemic has further highlighted the challenges faced by centenarians. Many have lost friends and contemporaries, and the lack of social interaction has become a significant challenge. While some may prefer a hermit-like existence, their mental acuity and physical health often cannot support such a lifestyle.

Given the option, many centenarians, including my grandmother who has just turned 100, prefer the companionship and support of their loved ones. The mental and emotional stimulation provided by these connections are essential for their well-being. In fact, studies have shown that meaningful interactions and expressions of love and support significantly contribute to longevity.

Counterintuitive Findings

Interestingly, while many centenarians do want to stay connected, some do prefer to spend time alone. This could be due to various factors such as personal preference, a desire for solitude, or simply the physical and mental challenges that come with advanced age.

For example, my grandmother, despite her support network of over 60 descendants, including 12 children, 24 grandchildren, and 24 great-grandchildren, has found comfort in her interactions with her family. However, she also has some regrets about not having a place for herself, highlighting the complex nature of these relationships.

The Role of Love and Relationships

It is important to note that the average centenarian may not be as inclined to lead a hermit-like life as one might think. While many social connections may have dwindled over the years, the few remaining close connections can still provide immense emotional support.

Visual proof of this can be seen in photos and stickers created to celebrate a centenarian's milestone. Stickers featuring my grandmother having a drink, for instance, are not the picture of a hermit but rather the vital and alert face of someone who has had a lifetime of love and support. Love, devotion, and meaningful connections play a crucial role in maintaining a healthy, vibrant mind and body.

The key takeaway from all this is that while some centenarians may find solace in solitude, the vast majority thrive on the support and love of their family, friends, and community. For those looking to emulate the habits of the longest-lived among us, cultivating these relationships and providing love and support are likely to be the primary contributors to a long and fulfilling life.