Social Media: A Canvas for Genuine Representation or a Source of Self-Deception?

These days, social media platforms can be turned into whatever we desire them to be. However, if we choose to pretend to be someone we are not, it ultimately results in a self-defeating activity. My friend, a 50-year-old woman, faced a dilemma while using these platforms. She could pretend to be young, fit, and beautiful, which might be entertaining for a while. Or, she could engage in schadenfreude by laughing at men who fell for her or herself for accepting her dishonesty.

The Dilemma of Posing Positively

The question arises: what if you truly enjoy a heart-to-heart connection with someone while maintaining this false persona? How will this impact your personal growth and well-being?

For instance, my friend once had a roommate who pretended to be younger, more educated, and experienced online. She lied about her age, education, and experience to an online acquaintance she met through a relationship website. After deciding to meet in person, she was devastated when the man turned out to be an older, less attractive individual than she had portrayed. The experience left her feeling deeply hurt and disillusioned.

The Impact of Being Perceived

No matter how honestly we present ourselves, we will eventually be perceived in a certain way by others. This perception is unlikely to align with our ideal self-image, and it can lead to a sense of disappointment and frustration.

Even when you honestly promote your ideas that do not align with the mainstream, your words may still be used to align you to predetermined group identities. Just your name might infer ethnic and gender credentials, which can further complicate your online presence.

Embracing Authenticity

However, there is an opportunity within social media to practice being a better, purer version of yourself. By evaluating your adopted attitudes and borrowed opinions and reinventing yourself, you can exorcise anything negative and nurture what is positive.

Your new persona might not be easily recognizable to others online, but the exercise can have a profound impact on your personal growth and your journey toward becoming the person you wish to be.

Conclusion

Although social media can be a platform for showcasing the best version of yourself, ultimately, it can be misleading. What you present online will be perceived in a certain way, and it is crucial to embrace authenticity and honesty in your self-representation. By doing so, you can avoid the pitfalls of self-deception and pave the way for genuine personal growth.