Should We Completely Stop Lying?

Thank you for your question, Rolando Rios. While the idea of completely stopping lying might seem advantageous, it is not without its complexities and apparent pitfalls. In my opinion, it would be advantageous in many aspects to reduce the prevalence of lies, as doing so could simplify the world and our interactions. However, there are specific instances, such as in the case of children suffering from terminal illnesses, where complete honesty could be harmful and destructive.

Words of Wisdom: The White Lie

Interestingly, complete honesty may not always be beneficial. 'The White Lie' is a concept that adds a layer of humanity to our interactions. For example, when your wife asks, "Does this dress make my butt look big," would you really want to burst her bubble? Your response, 'No, dear, it looks great on you,' is a perfect instance of the 'White Lie.'

Reflect on another scenario: your boss happily tells a story about the biggest fish he ever caught. Would you tactfully say, "That's the biggest bunch of B.S. I have ever heard!" or simply, "I sure am glad you had a great trip?" The truth, in these cases, can often be met with resistance or negativity. Therefore, we might want to reconsider the idea of completely stopping lying.

The Need for Benevolent Deception

There are too many instances where the truth would inflict significant harm. Keeping certain 'white lies' can be a moral and beneficial practice. For example, in the case of a loved one suffering from a terminal illness, complete honesty might not be the best approach. Honesty could bring unnecessary pain and suffering, whereas a gentle fib can provide comfort and a sense of control.

Moreover, not all lies are born out of negative intentions. Some people tell lies as a form of self-protection or as a means of self-preservation. Consider the example of someone with a speech impediment using a 'British accent' to deceive their friends or someone who lies to hide their true self. Lying can sometimes be a coping mechanism. However, there is a deeper, more profound rationale behind lying that goes beyond mere untruthfulness. Lying can serve as a means to clear our conscience and create an alternate reality in our minds—one where we feel in control and where reality is manipulated.

A Call to Reconsider Lying

It's essential to recognize that while lying often carries a negative connotation, it can serve beneficial purposes too. In some extreme scenarios, truth-telling might not be the most compassionate or practical approach. For example, if Hitler was still alive, lying to him for the greater good might be necessary and even ethical.

Furthermore, many people lie as a means of self-deception, allowing them to maintain a certain identity or self-image. This can be detrimental in some cases, but it also allows for personal growth and the development of alternate realities. Have you ever lied and over what? How did it make you feel? Do you feel you should never lie again?

Ultimately, the decision to tell the truth or bend the truth depends on the context and the potential consequences. While complete honesty is often the best policy, there are instances where gentle deception can be both human and beneficial.