My Decision Framework: Treating Others as We Expect to Be Treated

Decision-making, in my experience, is not a mechanical process but rather a reflection of the intricate workings of my mind and heart. My favorite framework does not come from a book or a set of instructions, but rather from the three pounds of gray matter located between my ears. Over the past 68 years, it has served me well and I plan to continue using it as long as it continues to function. Its resilience and versatility are quite remarkable.

The Golden Rule as a Foundation

I genuinely try to apply the Golden Rule in Intent, Means, and Ends. To me, this is the beginning of a fully formed ethics. My understanding of the Golden Rule is deeply interconnected with a set of virtues that ensure the well-being of others. My Christian faith significantly influences this understanding, but I am not seeking to boast or be prideful. My goal is to engage in a potentially interesting conversation about how ethics and virtue manifest in real-world situations.

Consequences and Adjustments

When making decisions, I always consider who or what is affected by my actions, both in the short and long term. I also reflect on whether my decision is selfish and if it can be adjusted to minimize harm. If I recognize a flaw in my decision, I am willing to admit it. However, if my actions are generally truthful and well-reasoned, I do not hesitate to point out any errors to others, provided they are willing to accept them. If they deny them, I forgive them and move on. This approach is especially critical in complex projects such as installing stairs and handrails on a 10-story building, where precision and order are paramount.

Incorporating Thorough Analysis

When making decisions, I meticulously analyze every detail of the situation. If I make a mistake, I am willing to admit it without hesitation. Often, the errors in our plans can compound, particularly when dealing with large projects. For example, if masons are off by just a quarter inch at the beginning of a staircase, this small error can multiplying exponentially, leading to potential failures in the overall project. Therefore, I invest considerable time in planning and re-planning to ensure the best outcome.

Harmonizing Decisions with Ourselves

Decisions are not merely about the outcome but also about the process. I believe it is essential to harmonize ourselves with the decisions we make. If we feel that a decision is not right after careful consideration, it is better to re-evaluate and choose a different path. This does not mean that we should be overly critical of our own decisions but rather that we should be thoughtful and disciplined in our approach.

No Wrong Decisions, Only Choices

In my experience, there are no wrong decisions in life. Every decision you make will lead you to where you need to be, whether you realize it at the time or not. The choices we make shape our destiny. While some paths may be more profound and impactful, every decision contributes to our overall journey. The key is to be mindful, thoughtful, and resilient in our decision-making process.